How do you live, knowing that death is guaranteed?

DEATH IN MIND...

DEATH IN MIND...

YOU’RE INVITED!

Death and Donuts

~ A Monday morning death cafe ~ third Monday of every month in Hillsborough, NC

A poster with light green background features a steaming cup of coffee with a skull design on it, a plate with a cinnamon roll, coffee beans, and a spoon. Text reads: 'Life is short. Please plan a small donation for the use of snow foundation gathering space. Let’s eat donuts! 9 am - 3rd Monday every month.'
A poster advertising an event called 'Death and Donuts' at 133 E King St, Hillsborough, at The Snow Approach. The poster features a stylized skull holding a chocolate donut with sprinkles. It lists topics for discussion about death, including openness, fears, perspectives, options for body disposition, end-of-life decisions, reflection, and talking about death.

2026: March 16, April 20, May 18, June 15, July 20, August 17, September 21, October 21, November 19th, No D&D in December

Death and Donuts Newsletters

A cartoon skeleton standing outdoors next to a pile of bones and skulls, smiling and pointing to it, with a speech bubble that says, "Get yourself together, we've got places to go." The background features clouds in the sky and a landscape with some distant hills.
Previous Newsletters

Newsletters are accounts of the meetings topics

Book Recommendations

A bookshelf filled with books behind a sign that reads 'Living and Dying. What books are on your 2026 reading list?' in a library setting.
Green sign with brown border listing books from a friend, titled 'Book List,' including titles about living, love loss, motherhood, and stress of loss, set against bookshelves with books in the background.
A green book list titled 'Book List for Living and Dying' with titles like 'Briefly Perfectly Human,' 'Being Mortal,' 'Die Wise,' 'A Beginners Guide to the End,' 'From here to Eternity,' 'Death Poems,' 'Japanese Death Poems,' and 'Tear Soup,' surrounded by a wooden bookshelf with books.
A black spiral-bound notebook with the word 'PLAN:' written on it in light blue, placed on a bright yellow background accompanied by a white pen. Picture to inspire ideas around creating a plan for your death.

Checklists with Resources coming soon!

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Journal Prompts: Get clear on living with Death in Mind

Resources and Items of Interest

More Books:

Check out the Befriending Death Book Club:

www.befriendingdeath.com/bookclub

  • grievingheartsforanimals.com - pet chaplain

  • CSNH.com - cremation ashes turned into vinyl records

  • capsulamundi.it - bio degradable urns become trees

  • thehospiceheart.net - classes, grief relief rituals, speaking events

  • sanctuaryattheburrow.com - Pittsboro Death Faire

  • Come see me in the Good Light - on Apple TV and Prime Video

What we wish were true - Tallu Schuyler Quinn

Life worth living - Miroslav Volf, Matthew Croasmun, Ryan McAnnally-Linz